“We all see negative points in each other and the main thing is we try hard to correct the negative points of opposite person instead of identifying and rectifying our owns”.
“How about if we try to identify and rectify our own negative points and recognize opposite person’s positive points?!”
In this world, everything has two sides: good and bad; positive and negative, happy and sad etc. The ultimate key to happiness is to always see positive even in negative situations, be happy even in sad situations, and see good even in bad situations.
The Real Life Challenge:
Every person has positive or negative points; the challenge is to see positive points every time you meet that person. Two individuals living in the same house fight with each other, two human beings quarrel on the road for a small accident, father and son don’t have proper bonding, husband and wife fight every day; the first thing they do in the morning.
Daughter-in-law and Mother-in-law; as we hear around always have issues with each other. Why these all things occur even we are the children of same God? The reason is “We all see negative points in each other and the main thing is we try hard to correct the negative points of opposite person instead of identifying and rectifying our owns”.
The Change that we need to bring:
How about if we try to identify and rectify our own negative points and try to recognize opposite person’s positive points?! The days will change; life will become amazing and awesome:
- Each morning both husband and wife will wake up and greet each other with a beautiful smile.
- We will love our family more than anyone else.
- Father and son won’t have any clashes.
- Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will live with unity.
- Every relation will regain its beauty
- Feelings will enhance.
The reason: After knowing one’s positive points; you know HOW GOOD THAT PERSON IS!! And this goodness will keep you near them. This feeling of how good the person is will stop conflicts on small things that even don’t matter after certain point of time. Just imagine how beautiful relations will be!!! As when you see negative points, you will find the opposite party is bad, rude and all negative emotions for that person start taking birth in your mind. This affects the relation which ultimately results in daily conflicts, unhappiness in relations etc. Hence, to keep ourselves as well as others happy; it has become mandatory to accept this change.
How to be positive for everyone?
Yes, you are now ready to accept this change and bring it to real life, however, how is it possible to see positive points in everyone? Well, for that, here are a few steps that you must follow:
- Be mentally prepared to ignore every negative point of the person that you hate or have negative feelings for.
- Now, in your daily routine; just observe what good things he/she does.
- Note all the good things in the diary.
- After writing one or two points itself, you will start having good feelings for the person.
- Do this exercise for at least five days.
- NOTICE and NOTE the changes in yourself.
This entire post is my personal experience. I have tried this method and have seen amazing results in myself.
- You will start loving this person more.
- You will start taking care of that person more.
- You will respect him/her more.
- You will at times feel guilty of feeling negative about him/her.
This will definitely give you strength, the courage to face that person in a positive manner. Try out this method and please share your results in the comments box.